Celebrating Me Day instead of Family Day

This past weekend was Family Day in Ontario.  A February long weekend meant to help ease the dreariness of winter and a way to spend some time with your family.

But this year I decided to say 'screw it' and take some time for me.  

This past month has really gotten too me.  Not sure if it's been the sub-Arctic weather giving me cabin fever or just needing an escape from the everyday, but whatever it was I decided I wasn't having it and took off Sunday afternoon for a break from it all.

I called up one of my oldest friends, Andrew, and invited myself for the night.  I can always count on him to be up for just about any spontaneous activity.  I told my husband and kids I was leaving for the night and I would see them tomorrow.

My husband looked half confused and half terrified by my matter of fact statement.  Stella wasn't terribly concerned other than a few long hugs and saying 'I'll miss you when you're gone.'  And little Alice really couldn't have cared less.

So I hit the highway,  blaring cheesy dance music and feeling a little freedom.  After a white-knuckled drive to Waterloo, Andrew and I immediately picked up where we had left off; catching up over drinks and cooking dinner.  He filled me in on all the juicy gossip and his tales of being a single, successful man and I tried not to bore him with stories about the kids.

I savoured every minute, from leisurely preparing a ridiculously spicy meal, to dining after 8:00pm.  It may sound silly, but I miss these small things.  Now that we have 2 kids  my preferences &  needs are at the very bottom of the list.  But not this night!  The only person I had to worry about was me....and it was wonderful.

We headed over to the local watering hole and enjoyed some live music and drinks with new friends.  I had a lovely conversation with a local artist who's work was on display in the bar and even tried Andrew's new shooter invention call the Thelma & Louise.(kind of fitting don't you think?)

We stayed out way to late and laughed way to hard; it was EXACTLY what I needed!

I needed to remember that I am more than a wife and a mother.  I'm ME.  The me who likes to go out and have fun, who likes to try new things, who likes to hear great stories and make some of her own.

So you may think I'm selfish for ditching my family on Family Day weekend, but I think just the opposite.
I think I did my family a favour.  I feel refreshed and revived and a little more like me after my whirlwind road trip.  And that means I might just be a better wife and mother because of it.


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Sober September Week #2 - It's time to be Selfish

So today marks the end of week #2 of Sober September.  Slightly easier than week #1 but still pretty damn hard.  It was the first full week of school complete with tantrums, tirades and downright tiredness.  And Stella was a bit of a handful too!  There were a few select evenings where I would have loved nothing better than to flop on the couch with a big glass of red...but I resisted.

And on top of keeping the booze at bay I managed to finally start running again.  I have run periodically throughout the last 10 years.  About 2 years ago I was up to running 10km.  Not too shabby.  But then work, life and another baby happened and running seemed to get shoved to the back burner.  This week also marks the completion of the first week of Couch to 5k.  The program is fantastic and I've actually done it twice in the past.  You go from the couch to running 5km in 9 weeks; and it works.  Slow and steady; you build up your running each week while keeping injury free.

So I'm figuring September will be my Selfish September as well. No drinking, started running and on Tuesday I start Pilates.  A friend and I signed up for an evening class at a public school.  Just a little me time and girl time and maybe get some awesome abs in the process.  Needless to say it was a great deal and a perfect way to get me out of the house. 

I'm trying to be aware that I need to take care of both my mind and body in order to take care of my family and homestead.  If mama isn't happy and healthy then no one else will be.  The past year has been busy with the baby and the family and I will admit that I was the last one on the list.  And I'm OK with that.  But now I'm cognisant of the fact I need to be a little higher on the list of importants.  I think I'm feeling a little lost, overwhelmed or defeated and in order to get out of the funk I need to take care of me. I don't think its selfish really and my family is completely supportive.

I guess what I'm trying to say is it's OK to take some time for you.  Don't feel guilty for trying to feed your mind, body or soul.  You really can't take care of anyone unless you take care of you first.  Selfish doesn't have to be a bad word it's a survival skill.

So this week, be a little selfish....do something for you...something to bring you back to you...you will thank yourself.
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Tip Tuesday - Downsize Your Vanity with One Item

Oh Coconut Oil....how do I love thee?  Let me count the ways....

And there's probably a thousand of them.  I've been a coconut oil addict for the past few years and I'm OK with that.  So I thought I would share why I feel this way about coconuts.

We use unrefined Organic Virgin Coconut Oil in our house.  We have a giant tub in the kitchen and a small container in the bathroom and the baby's room.  It's possibly the most versatile thing I've ever used.

So here's a few things we use it for....think of all the products in your home it can replace!  :)

1.  Cooking - coconut oil can replace butter, margarine and vegetable oils for baking, frying and cooking in general.  Especially delicious when used for making popcorn!  Great in the fry pan as it has a high smoking point.
2.  Lip Balm - skip the Vaseline or various lip balms in a tube.  Just a little bit to soothe your lips...and it tastes delish!
3.  Body Cream - so lovely to spread over all your parts especially after getting out of the shower.
4.  Face Cream - I use it as a face and eye cream.  Some people advise to put it on at night but I do it during the day with no complaints.  A little goes a long way.  It's so soft and luxurious and leaves my skin feeling nourished and looking great!
5.  Can help lower cholesterol - coconut oil is considered a healthy fat and can actually help lower your cholesterol.  Put it in your smoothie or use it in a stir fry.
6.  Diaper cream - yes you can chuck your icky petroleum based diaper cream and use some coconut.  With it's anti-inflammatory, anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties it's great for baby bums
7.  Deodorant - use it on it's own as a natural deodorant or why not make your own with some lovely oils for a yummy smelling armpits!
8.  Sunscreen - yes you can use it as a natural sunscreen and to build up your own sun-tolerance.  It's got about an SPF 4.
9.  After Sun Care - spent a little too much time outside?  Then rub on some coconut oil and turn that pink into a lovely golden brown.
10.  De-frizz - use a tiny dab on those split ends or frizzy hair post-shower and enjoy gorgeous shiny locks
11.  Shaving Cream - perfect 2-in-1.  Shave with is and no need to moisturise after as it's already done!
12.  Foot Care -slather it on to those tired toes and go to sleep with some light socks and wake up to beautifully moisturised feet.

OK...so you probably get the point by now, I could go on and on. A simple Internet search will give you thousands of uses for this amazing oil.

So why not ditch some of those gross chemically products and just use one. Think of the space you'll you'll have in your vanity or pantry! What's your fave way to use Coconut Oil?

Cuckoo for coconut,
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